Lean In

First published September 18, 2015

I was watching an old episode of Scandal the other night. For those not familiar with the show, it's based on the life of a Washington D.C. woman whose ability to solve complex and often illegal problems within and outside the White House has earned her the title of "Fixer". When she is trying to get her clients out of difficult situations or into some better light, one phrase in particular is often on repeat, "We need to change the conversation."

In this episode, the First Lady is running for Senate, but the last city on the campaign trail was where her son had been murdered in front of her not long before. To add insult to injury, the entire speech drafted on her behalf was about her dead son. Her campaign manager (not the "Fixer") pleads with her about how much these votes are needed, and how discussing this very painful topic would make her more relatable to constituents. All the while the First Lady is wringing her hands in the air because she just can't bring herself to go. She asks her campaign manager how she could be expected to deliver this speech and exploit the death of her son. "I don't want you to exploit the situation," her campaign manager responds. "I just want you to lean into it."

Ouch.

When bad, even tragic things happen in our lives, our response is to turn away from what has hurt us. Nothing could be worse than revisiting a person, a situation, or even a memory that caused us pain. We don't want to lean into that; we want to push it away. We want to create a distance between ourselves and what is causing us to hurt or stay in the past. But sometimes I'm learning, the only way to get past something is to go through it because there's no getting around it. It's true in life, and it's true in work.

I found myself in this situation only a couple years ago. I left a decent job for one that held all the promise of professional fulfillment, career advancement, and financial stability. I quickly learned those promises were empty ones, void of any truth or substance to back them up. My daily professional life was a nightmare. Even though it's been a couple years since I left, it's still difficult to describe how I felt and what I went through. And try as I might, there has been no getting around what resulted from my choice to work there. I have to walk through it.

But I don't want to walk blindly, and I certainly don't ever want any season to be wasted.  Regardless of what I'm walking through, I want my eyes wide open and I want to be alert to the possibilities around me. I want to make the most out of the situation I'm in. I want to take something that started out as bad, and turn it into something good. No, great!

This is leaning in.

I could easily shuffle through my days as they turn into weeks and years, doing the bare minimum at my current position and focusing my attention elsewhere. But what if I changed the conversation? Instead of seeing my current position as merely a detour or a stepping stone (which it very well may turn out to be), what if I gave it my full attention? What if I go to work everyday with the idea that I can make a difference no matter where I am?

This was difficult for me at first. The job I took when I left the last one was very different from my previous jobs. I couldn't use much of my prior experience, and instead, was thrust into situations where I had to learn new things. Uncomfortable would be an understatement. I carried a lot of bitterness as a result of what my previous company put me through, and I just wanted what was familiar and to do work I already knew I succeeded at.

Slowly, I began to learn my job - really learn it. I learned it (and am still learning) in a way that not only has me feeling comfortable, but feeling like I can take it to another level - offer suggestions for new ideas, overhaul old processes for new ones with better results, and be creative with my tasks.

When discouragement finds its way to my heart, I'm reminded that leaning in was actually God's idea in the first place. Colossians 3:23 says, "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters." Long before the choices that got me here were made, He knew there would be times when maybe my heart just wouldn't be in something. But that doesn't mean I can't give it my all, because even if I don't receive credit for it, even if no one sees, and even if it feels so far from the work I love doing - He sees and He knows, and I do good work because good is the only thing my work should be. Otherwise, there's no point.

So, if you answer phones all day - answer them with a smile on your face. The person on the other end of the phone will hear it in your voice. Be the friendliest and most helpful you can be. Even if you don't have the answers; go find them. If your job entails ordering food and delivering it, you enjoy that drive and time out of the office. Maybe strike up a conversation with whoever you purchase the food from. If you spend your days in a copy room compiling handouts for a meeting -  show your boss how efficient you can be. Finish that copying before it's expected, and while you're at it, leave that copy room cleaner than you found it.

I can encourage you in this because I have been there myself. Through all the mundane and monotonous, there is joy to be found in giving something your best. And who's to say that the work that doesn't make sense to you now isn't preparing you for greater responsibility later? Maybe your sales numbers are too low to bother counting, but maybe you are gaining ground in leading or multitasking or something else that can't be measured on a resume, but is invaluable to an employer.

If you find yourself in a work situation that is less than desirable or not what you thought, don't shy away. Don't keep yourself at a distance from it. Dive in head first. Learn all you can. Get so good at it that you can be proud. Get so close to it that your perspective changes.

Lean all the way in.