International Women’s Day

Someone else gets the raise.⁣
Someone else gets the title.⁣
Someone else gets a seat at the table.⁣

I wasn’t overlooked. I stepped out of the way.

And it’s been a year since I said I didn’t want to be considered for the promotion.

I used to have a lot of trouble making these kind of bigger decisions. From a young age I believed that my worth was tied to how much and how well I produced. If I wasn’t hustling, I didn’t count.⁣

As a result, I often said “yes” to things not meant for me because I thought it was what I “should” do. I was so worried about letting other people down that I never stopped to ask if I was letting myself down.⁣

Now when faced with a decision, I ask myself two questions:⁣

📌 Does this honor the life I’m trying to create? (life, not lifestyle)⁣
⁣📌 Will this cost me my peace?⁣

When you answer these questions honestly, the situation quickly comes into focus, and you can stop second guessing yourself.⁣

Money and an updated LinkedIn profile can be gratifying, but not more so than thriving health - physical and mental. ⁣

And it doesn’t matter how much it might make sense to someone else, or how much you are the obvious choice.

So here’s to buying back your freedom. Here’s to not being the boss.

Here’s to looking opportunity in the eye and saying, “Thanks, but no thanks. I have given enough.”